Relationship Combatibility Factors
Relationship and Marriage counseling can assist you discover how in harmony you are.
The two most crucial factors that decide how similar you are as a couple are:
A similar degree of psychological health and maturity and a similar ranking of Instinctual Variants.
What are Instinctual Variants?
The 3 Instincts represent the inherant energy or drives that are inherently part of us as humans. Our actions are highly engaged with and is often dependent on these libidinal, instinctual energies to give it its spark.
Self Preservation Instinct.
People of this Instinctual type are often with the basic existential needs as they translate into our modern society, for example, money, food, housing, health, safety and comfort.
Being safe and physically comfortable are priorities, and they will often bring these supplies with them.
When entering a room, they will tend to notice bad lighting, uncomfortable seating, the room temperature, when the coffee break will be, and whether they will enjoy the food provided. They also tend to be the most practical in the sense of taking care of important necessities of life.
They are the most introverted of the types.
Sexual/ Intimate Instinct.
People of this variant have a strong desire for severity of experience and intimacy. The blunt riveting gaze is the dead giveaway. When they enter a room they gravitate toward people they feel attracted to, as if they are looking for the juice. These people can turn into intimacy junkies, often neglecting pressing obligations or even basic hygiene if they are swept up in something that has captivated them. This gives a wide ranging exploratory philosophy to life, but can also generate a lack of focus on one's own achievements.
Social Instinct.
People of this type are preoccupied on their interactions with other people and with the sense of value and self esteem they derive from their involvement in collective activities. These include occupation, family, side activities and clubs.
Upon entering a room, these people would immediately be aware of the relationships and subtle politics between the different people and groups. They are subconsciously attuned on other people's reaction to them, particularly about whether they are being accepted or not.
They need to connect with others to feel safe, acknowledged and energised. They tend to love interacting with others, but they eschew intimacy.
They are the most extroverted of the types.
Within a person, one of these three Instincts will predominate. In fact these three traits can be ranked like the sections of a cake, with the most predominant one at the top. The least powerful one, at the bottom, is termed the blind spot.
These instincts play an important role in our relationships because personalities of the same variant tend to share values to understand each other completely, and therefore feel very compatible.
In relationships between 2 different Instinctual types, each will struggle to convert the other.
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